Talk with Tilak
“All of life is
about only one thing — relationships,” says the spiritual
transformer known simply as Tilak. “And we are born to fall in love.
“Most of the time
we think of falling in love as the ultimate experience. We can’t even
imagine anything beyond that. What is there more than love? — we
wonder. But what there is, is an overflow of love.
“Ultimate Love —
which can be a million, billion times stronger than love between two
people — is the realization of Reality. That’s the true falling in
love – not with life but through life into Infinity.”
Who is Tilak?
Who is Tilak?
would be mere promises of exquisite possibilities if he did not also
have the power to catalyze these energies in others. A native of
growing up years, as he playfully (and ‘naughtily’) explored and
expanded his inborn capacities, Tilak regularly demonstrated abilities
defying the principles of physical reality his father was teaching at
the nearby university. Fortunately, however, both his physics professor
father and devout Buddhist mother supported his process of divine
Self-discovery by providing a safe and loving environment with minimal
As he grew to
maturity, Tilak’s gifts for precipitating and accelerating positive
changes in others made him a spiritual celebrity in his own country and
the subject of scientific inquiry in
himself as “A travel agent who will take you to places you have never
been before.” He characterizes his transmission as “a needle point
of light through breath that pierces the body so that the inner light
can emerge and break the boundaries created by our stories.”
In the words of
best-selling author Wayne Dyer, “Tilak brings spiritual energy into
the body that you haven’t experienced before… He brings his gift of
lightness to where heaviness has persisted for too long.” Having
personally experienced three highly illuminating and liberating
transmissions from Tilak, I interviewed him to discover his perspective
on intimate relationships. What follows are excerpts from the many
beautiful words he shared with me.
We are made of lust
— of flaming desire — and we are made to ignite. Without the red
fire of lust, we would never come out of our sleepiness and darkness to
see the wholesome nature of life.
begin with this first hot fire. Through our lovemaking — if we don’t
go to sleep directly afterwards — we can ride the energy into another
space and experience a world of no boundaries. Our access to this world
comes through the blue fire of recognition and appreciation that ignites
Having no boundaries
is what we envision when we think of being free of a human body and
exploring other dimensions. When we experience no boundaries in a body
whose capacity to express is bound by limitations, then the deeper fire
of appreciation — the purple fire — can hit us hard and open us into
a realm of extraordinary experience.
It is through our
open hearts that we can encounter beautiful, non-physical beings who
exist on a higher frequency — as well as energies and intelligences
that are beyond the range of normal human perception, but that can
enrich human life immeasurably.
We don’t really
know what non-personal relationships are. Yet all of Nature’s elements
and forces are within us. And we can interact with them and experience
something so sweet it delights us and changes our life.
Very few people are
aware that we can unite with the energies of Earth, Air, Fire, Water and
Space, and that they can provide us with the highest intensity of
intimacy that a person can experience. One of the deepest pleasures and
joys available to a human body comes through extending our recognition
and appreciation into other worlds and then letting ourselves get
This is not
something we can just work on to achieve — just as you can’t
forcibly love somebody. It’s a natural force that emerges within you
only through love.
Not many have
accessed the highest degree to which we can experience emotional,
romantic or sensuous Love. Yet, far beyond that is the fire of Pure
Unconditional Love, which erupts not as reaction or response to anyone
or anything and which has no reference point.
In our personal
relationships we love somebody because something in return comes to us.
Even in highly romantic situations, we are selfish. This is human
But we can grow
conscious of this and go out of our way to love somebody totally, deeply
and outrageously — out of the deepest fire and passion we have. Then,
we can break free of our selfishness and self-centeredness.
The only way we can
really hold onto somebody is in this free space — where we are gliding
together, not fused together. If we are fused we cannot fly for very
long before we come crashing down.
Real love comes only
out of freedom, choice, appreciation and wonder. Commitment and
dedication can’t be achieved through a legal contract. You are
committed because you want to be — because you love somebody so much
you don’t want to be with anyone else.
through Love into Wonder and Joy
Falling in love
suggests a sweet surrender in which the other person becomes a portal
for us to see the Infinite. This makes all our relationships sacred
relationships because they ignite the fire of intimacy within us.
reference points in this life are not of extreme joy, intimacy or
consciousness. Even when they have sex, they may think they are burning
but they are not.
Whatever you think
you have experienced so far, you’ve likely never had the very best in
life physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. The mind has
settled into nostalgia and sentiment because it says, ‘I’m old, the
best has already happened.’
This is part of the
story of unworthiness. Your reasons for thinking that it can no longer
happen for you are not valid. The best can happen when you are 83. This
challenges the very nature of reality. The mind says no, but the heart
In sweetness and
love all boundaries are broken, for everything that exists manifests out
of the fire of pure love. We have the capacity to love beyond ourselves
and beyond all limitations.
We are speaking not just about romantic and sensuous love here. We are speaking about the kind of love that becomes pure energy, a pure force that can open all other boundaries, all other places.
experiencing life to the fullest. It is the ultimate invitation to live
life as an adventure — a never-ending path of joy. We can go into the
streets and consciously seek out opportunities to act with
loving-kindness. If that is what you do, you are a saddhu — a sweet
honeybee of a human.
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